Reply to You know, I've read a couple etiquette manuals for gay men (and several for Victorian women!) but one situation I have never really known how to handle is "Your lover is trying to make out with you while getting railed by a top he just met, and while t... on Tue, 27 Jan 2026 16:48:15 GMT

valhalla@social.gl-como.it — Tue, 27 Jan 2026 16:48:15 GMT

@aphyr if you haven't been properly introduced I'd say it would be pretty scandalous to start talking to each other, so I'd say that you should both continue to interact with your lover while ignoring the other person, until your lover does a proper introduction

while getting railed of course, I guess

ok, maybe the victorian etiquette manuals aren't the right place to look for an answer :D

(unless previously negotiated. but you need to have talked to each other to do so, so you need to have been introduc. no. wait.)